Relationships
It once used to be that the word blessed, along with its derivatives, had hallowed connotations. Not entirely so these days, especially in black urban circles where “blessers”
Dear Bear, I've been with my partner for five years, and I want to spend many more together. We both hate capitalism. He grew up extremely poor and
"Being robbed is the price we pay for the way we live," my husband said, several hours after we came home on Saturday to find our front gate
August 24, 2015
Woman has baby. You wouldn’t think that it would make headline news (unless, of course, it was Kate and Will again), but it has. Not because the mother-to-be ...read more
August 13, 2015
“God,” sighs Marie (Carrie Fisher), having just listened to her best friend’s latest dating nightmare in my very favourite scene in one of my very favourite movies, When ...read more
August 12, 2015
Here’s how it goes. Every few months, a 4 000-word trend piece comes along that captures some elemental cultural truth and with it the imagination of the internet, ...read more
June 3, 2015
Here is an assertion with which you will be familiar. After 30, women’s fertility falls drastically. Their chances of conceiving naturally plummet, and they are left relying on ...read more
May 20, 2015
The New York Times recently published a piece about the lives of the hyper-rich stay-at-home women on the Upper East Side, complete with sex-segregated dinner parties and year-end ...read more
April 22, 2015
Phumla Ndlovu’s* partner Xolile Silo* started drinking at nine that Monday morning. He then left their house in Roodepan township, near Kimberley in the Northern Cape, and headed ...read more
April 9, 2015
They’re emotionally and physically exhausting, they’re hugely expensive and they are the biggest curtailment of your personal freedom after prison: objectively, it makes next to no sense to ...read more
April 8, 2015
I bristled again the other day at a phrase I think we need to expunge from our vocabularies. I was talking to an elderly relative about a mutual ...read more
April 2, 2015
With henna on my hands and my head covered in a scarf, I went to my wedding. My sister-in-law had helped me drape my purple and gold punjabi ...read more
March 25, 2015
Faking orgasms is a disservice to society. Why give a standing ovation when the play is bad? These were the musings during my first year of university when ...read more
March 3, 2015
"Men don’t court anymore." A complaint I've heard more than once, men are less R&B and more hip hop, less Luther Vandross Buy Me a Rose and more ...read more
February 27, 2015
Sexy old women: mutually exclusive terms, some would say, unless you’re referring to “cougars”, whose legendary prowling gives them their beastly nickname. This species is female, middle-aged and ...read more
