50 Shades of Grey: Kink or abuse?
There’s been a lot of criticism in feminist and kink communities over the Fifty Shades of Grey series – first as novels, and now as movies. And the
Beyond 50 Shades: The reality behind 3 myths about BDSM
Those four little letters can cause quite the stir. They have been colourfully portrayed in film, television, and music in various ways. There are clandestine whispers about them
Why getting an abortion was the best decision of my life
Sometimes, however, I do feel guilty for not ‘sticking it out’ and ‘doing the right thing’. My husband feels the same. But then I think to myself, who
Sexual healing: An African sex safari
February 17, 2015
As I climbed into the passenger seat of an old white Astra, township tour guide Mandy Mankazana inspected me, smacked her lips and murmured “sexy, sexy”, before hitting more
All dating advice is as terrible as the people who give it
February 12, 2015
As a rule, you should be sceptical of anyone offering advice about anything – including me, and including this sentence. But as the annual exercise in twee consumerism more
Why we tell strangers our secrets
February 3, 2015
Ask around and you’ll discover a mysterious truth about travelling on planes and trains: almost everyone can recall being stuck next to a stranger who wouldn’t stop boring more
Pastor: 10 women Christian men should not marry
January 20, 2015
Last night I stumbled upon a blog entry that made me both cringe and laugh and then sigh in exasperation: 10 women Christian men should not marry. I more
Nude selfies are not your friend
January 13, 2015
Selfies, Instragram, iPhone, Snapchat. We live in a world where if you didn't take a picture of it, it didn’t happen. People won’t believe you ate that burger more
Here’s a proposal: Keep your private moments to yourself
December 17, 2014
In Holland, nothing says “romance” like the destruction of a neighbour’s home, which makes them temporarily destitute and wrecks their insurability in the long term. Like a bleakly more
The witches make men do it
November 11, 2014
South Africa lost a sporting hero last week. Kelly Khumalo lost a boyfriend – and it would seem we all hate her for this. Khumalo has spoken of more
Invite his penis in? Seriously?
October 24, 2014
If you’re having a party in your panties, please invite the penis. My vagina is a playground for men. This is the impression of sex I have gleaned more
Are you worth two cows? Three? Four?
October 3, 2014
Do you ever wonder how much you'd "go for" when someone finally decides to "put a ring on it"? Should your modern family get money, cars? Surely your more
Female condoms: What have men got to do with it?
September 17, 2014
September 16 is Global Female Condom Day. All across the world, activists, policy-makers and those working at the frontlines of HIV prevention will be celebrating the invention of more
17 lies we need to stop teaching girls about sex
September 17, 2014
Knowledge is power, and we can promote a healthier relationship with sex by encouraging a more open dialogue, teaching girls to feel comfortable with their sexuality and, most more
Dear Child
September 9, 2014
Cath says write to your children. So let's do this. At this stage in the parenting game, it's probably a bit late to be providing rules on how more