10 things a woman should never say to a man … rewritten
So today Sowetan Live posted this little titbit and shared it on the internet like it was something to be proud of. It was called “10 things a
Aphrodisiacs? They’re touch and go
Receiving packages of products to try out is nothing out of the ordinary when you work for a newspaper – anything from a new energy drink or a
Dreams of ‘self-discovery’ destroying marriage, claims psychologist
Time was when a roof over your head, food on the table and occasional bouts of sexual activity were the hallmarks of a successful marriage. Not any more.
Love has been privatised, and it cannot be brought back into public ownership
February 10, 2014
There is a political dimension to the ghastly Valentine's Day and it goes something like this. The political climate of late modernity is characterised by an emphasis on more
Do we really need to baby our men?
February 5, 2014
There is constant talk of the "crisis of masculinity". The idea that men are going through some "massive communal trauma" due to the tectonic shift within society that more
It doesn’t hurt to flirt
January 9, 2014
Women and men approach the dating game differently. Call it genetics, call it societal constraints, the average man and woman differ in their approaches. It would seem men more
Why boys need girls as friends
December 11, 2013
As a child, I could not think of anything worse than being friends with a boy. And sadly it looks like plenty of men and women still feel more
Lesbianism: sexual fluidity is a fact of life for women
November 27, 2013
My technique when interviewing celebrities about their lives used to involve questions beginning with: "As a lesbian, I ..." That would always get women – from Sharon Stone more
Hipster Shaadi: the dating website for hip young Muslims
November 25, 2013
As self-aware dating websites go, this is up there with the best of them. The logo s a pink heart wearing a pair of thick-framed black spectacles (beloved more
How to check out a potential partner online – without being creepy
November 15, 2013
Researching potential love interests online is par for the course these days – but admitting to it is another matter. In the first throes of romance there are more
‘Once he get on, he’s gonna leave your ass for a white girl’
November 13, 2013
Like many I have had my fair share of torment where beauty is concerned, but the penultimate was exacerbated by a gorgeous white girl at junior school. Zara, more
First, be kind
November 12, 2013
It’s your birthday today, I see. It’s astounding what that has triggered, because I thought I was fine. It had all happened long ago. And yet there are more
The Ex-Husband Jar
November 7, 2013
I have an ex-husband jar. Did you know that? It’s not a rinsed out Black Cat Peanut Butter jar in which I somehow keep you in it like more
A man’s perspective on why engagement rings are a joke
November 4, 2013
Most of us are adult enough to know magic doesn't exist. And yet we're the same species that thinks fat rings are fairy-tale items which somehow "secure" another more
7 lessons I learned that changed my business
October 31, 2013
I’m often asked, usually by audience members when I give a talk or presentation, where I learned about running a small business, freelancing and/or self-promotion. And my answer more