When we deny our own vulnerability, we cope by being cruel to others
When someone says "I take no pleasure in this" while, at the same time, being incredibly cruel, it is a sure sign that they actually do take pleasure
From best friends to LinkedIn connections
This week, I received a LinkedIn connection request from a familiar face. He’s older, yes, but he looks much the same. We met 15 years ago, at a
Five fallacies about engagement rings
Is your engagement ring a gift, or a contract, or a payment for services sampled? Chances are, you don’t really know. But you should -- misconceptions around engagement
Love: addiction with no rehab
October 18, 2013
Why do we crave love? Why do we choose one ­person over another? What do cocaine and love have in common? These are the questions that Helen Fisher, more
Touching, unguarded portraits of sleeping parents-to-be
September 18, 2013
A few years ago, Russian photographer Jana Romanova's social life took a turn. All of a sudden, it seemed, all of her friends had become pregnant. Just as more
I didn’t love my wife when we got married
September 13, 2013
I'm a ridiculous, emotional, over-sentimental sap. I guess that's why I told my wife I loved her on our second date. I had tried really hard up to more
Why choosing not to have children isn’t selfish OR admirable
September 12, 2013
A childless-by-choice friend recently shared an article, Why not having kids is admirable, not selfish, on Facebook. The article was an interesting read that laid out why we more
Why Mumsnet and social media are important new forums for feminism
September 2, 2013
Where should a 20-something feminist go when faced with a online barrage of rape and death threats? Unsurprisingly, Laura Bates turned to an anonymous talkboard to ask for help soon after more
A queer sort of politics
September 2, 2013
When I came out as a lesbian in 1978 aged 16 (having been publicly identified as a dyke two years earlier by bullies), it was miserable. I lost more
The upsides of being alone
September 2, 2013
This weekend, I celebrated my birthday alone in the bush. It wasn’t planned -- for various reasons, the friends who were meant to spend it with me couldn’t more
Women work while men socialise, finds Stats SA
August 29, 2013
Statistics South Africa compiled its "A Survey of Time Use" report in 2010, but only released it on August 28 because of a dearth of people in the department more
Rebranding polyamory does women no favours
August 27, 2013
Polyamory is the latest subversive and a la mode sexual practice to receive extensive media coverage. It appeals as a subject for to those interested in alternative lifestyles, more
Gender stereotyping is unhelpful and counter-productive – whoever’s doing it
August 26, 2013
How much do the reactions of a particular and self-selecting group to an unusual and disturbing incident tell us about our culture generally? Photographs of a teenage girl seemingly more
Brood boy: actor sets up Danish dating website for people keen to start a family
August 22, 2013
Serial dater Emmanuel Limal was tired of meeting women who weren't ready to start a family, or at least wouldn't admit that they were. The 43-year-old actor, originally more
‘Hookup culture’ isn’t a cultural phenomenon: it’s just casual sex
August 22, 2013
Although the silly season is well under way in Britain, we must spare a thought for our American friends, who this summer have been bombarded with a succession more