UnSorbet yourself

Posted by: Reader Blog | Date: November 26, 2014 | 11 Comments

By Pearl Pillay

“The Victorian woman became her ovaries, as today’s woman has become her ‘beauty’.”

Naomi Wolf’s sentiments from her book The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women sprung to mind as I drove on the M1 North today. The refreshing feel of a new billboard on the highway was mutilated by the sexist drivel I had to encounter in the form of Sorbet’s new advertising campaign. Sorbet markets itself as a “nationwide beauty therapy hub”. What they don’t tell us is that their idea of “beauty” is one which perpetuates and deeply entrenches patriarchy, using a negative body image to subjugate and diminish women. The billboard reads: “Hey Steve, Meet Nancy! You’re not alone. She’s unpolished, unwaxed and unloved.”

The advert is part of a national “It’s not OK, Nancy!” campaign launched by the protectors of male dominance, Sorbet. While a clever play on FNB’s “Steve” campaign, Sorbet wins no smart points for this advert which advances sexism in a way so severe, it would make even the most subservient woman cringe in her seat.

Speaking about the campaign, Sorbet’s marketing manager, Jade Kirkel, said (as seen on their website): “The unassuming and ungroomed universe of Nancy is an endearing one. She’s a well-meaning character that has a crush on Steve but sadly lacks in self-esteem. She needs a confidence boost, and it’s our job to help her.” Kirkel pointed out that the aim of the campaign is “to educate the aspirant female grooming generation on the importance of being well-kempt in business, home and lifestyle” and that “her presence amongst us should not be confused purely with the pursuit of Steve”.

I’m sorry. As a female human, I really do not need to be “educated” on how important being “well-kempt” is, especially when the definition of “well-kempt” is one that tells me that unless I wax, shave and polish myself, I’m unloved and lack self-esteem. Furthermore, I somehow find it hard to believe that, in a society that uses unrealistic images of beauty against women, shaving my legs and polishing my nails will improve my positioning as a victim of a patriarchal system.

The idea that a woman’s identity, her social standing and the way she feels about herself must be premised on this idea of beauty is problematic. What this does is places women in a perpetual state of vulnerability — constantly holding onto the construction of self-esteem as an organ, waiting for approval from the male gaze. That male gaze! This fictional Nancy is being marked as someone who has a crush on our friend, Steve. To begin the advertising campaign by saying that Nancy is determined to meet Steve and then shifting the focal point from Steve is rubbish, to say the least.

The message portrayed here is clear: Ladies, if you want to get a man (no matter how useless he is at banking), you need to be polished and waxed. If, heaven forbid, you haven’t waxed your eyebrows or polished your nails, then you obviously have self-esteem issues and are unloved — because those things are mutually exclusive, because in order to love yourself, you need to project an image that satisfies the male lens, because unless you project that image, you’re an untouchable, because patriarchy always, always wins.

This campaign tells women that the only affirmation that counts is the one which comes from beauty. What they don’t tell you is that this affirmation is a superficial one and is the result of the historical perpetuation of subordination and oppression. This notion of beauty is something that has more to do with men and male institutions than it has to do with women. Look at it this way: Steve, a human who is useless at making sound banking decisions is viewed in the same light as a woman who doesn’t wax and a woman who doesn’t wax is viewed in the same light as you view someone incapable of managing finances effectively.

In the most basic sense, conceptions of beauty are meant to regulate behaviour rather than appearance. By using beauty as a regulating factor, society is able to create competition between women and, if women remain divided, they are no longer a threat to male-dominated institutions of power — Nancy needs to improve herself otherwise someone else may snap up Steve! Of course, with women having the audacity to rise up in business, in the academy and even in the home, the only way to maintain male domination is through economics.

In order to keep economic flow constant, women need to feel that they are worth less than feminism would have them believe and that, in order to increase their worth, they need to purchase self-improvement products that will enhance their beauty and subsequently, their value. Thus, prescribing behaviour for pure economic gain has now been masked as social virtue. While women during the industrial revolution were made to feel like they had to achieve domesticity, women now have the ideal notion of beauty towards which they are expected to. Notice how no one knows what Steve looks like yet we can picture Nancy as a (probably) overweight, hairy-legged beast lurking at FNB, waiting for Steve to show up. That’s called heteronormativity. Thanks, Sorbet.

These images of beauty are violent, to say the least. Perhaps, however, in challenging the violence of beauty ourselves, serious thought needs to be given to the definition of what it means to be a woman in contemporary society and whether or not her lived experiences and the ways in which these experiences inform her identity have any bearing on that definition. Sadly, in the public realm, it is naïve to assume that spheres of misogyny can be changed. If one were to look at the advertising sphere, for example, one would realise that the industry thrives on the attack of women’s self-esteem. If the industry were to suddenly include women as equals, it simply would not thrive. It prides itself on regulating women through hetero-normative notions of femininity.

The solution? Deregister from university, dear female academics! Leave your positions as directors of companies and as people who can and will change the world and get to your nearest Sorbet store! Your self-esteem and the ability for any man to love you depends on it! As for that equality thing? Who needs it when you can have smooth legs and pretty nails?

Pearl Pillay is the head of research and policy at Youth Lab. She is currently working on her masters in political studies at Wits university.

Image – sorbet.co.za


  • Inka

    Wrote to them. Thanks for the article.

  • Kamy Govender

    I am sorry but I was enjoying your article and was about to re-post it, until I got to the line” we can picture Nancy as a (probably) overweight, hairy-legged beast…” You have just contradicted your entire argument by projecting onto Nancy the same societal stereotypes that you claim to be objecting to – who said that Nancy being unwaxed or a “hairy beast” as you put it, must automatically mean that she is also “(probably) overweight”? Can skinny girls not also be “unwaxed and unloved”? Or is it only the “overweight” ones who are so?By including that line in your article you have just successfully put women in exactly the same position as they were before, and have successfully continued to divide women by putting Nancy in an “overweight” category thereby subjecting her and other “overweight” women to even more marginalization. Shame on you! File this article under “hypocritical” and “trash”.

    • Sharon van Wyk

      Agree 100%

    • http://egmr.net/author/cavie Caveshen Rajman

      *slow clap*

    • Stephanie Walters

      As a bit of a tomboy I actually like being treated with a wax and a polish every now and then however I think the ad was taken way too seriously. Just as red bull doesnt give you wings they are not insulting people with this ad I feel… If you didnt like the ad, it wasnt targeted to you.

    • Siobhan

      I absolutely agree with you!

  • Truthspeaker

    My experience is that women care far more for grooming and pruning than what most men would like of them. Women have many issues to fight for in an unequal world, but when it comes to unnecessary expenditure on beauty they can generally blame no one but themselves. Most men I know would be elated if their partners spent less money and time on hair, make up and shoes, so it seems women’s obsession with these things is more a result of caring about what other women think, and not what men actually want.

    • Tuesday Is Soylent Green Day

      be careful, you don’t want the feminists hear you talking sense.

  • Tiffany Markman

    While I agree that this Sorbet billboard was a fail, in terms of both messaging and execution, I disagree with many of your points.

    For one, I have regular #Nancy moments, where I neglect my grooming due to work pressures, family obligations or just not being bothered, and I feel crappy when I do.

    This has nothing to do with patriarchy – it’s me loving myself less when I don’t take the time to invest in my face and body.

    For another, you’re falling into exactly the same trap as Sorbet did, when you position ‘hairy Nancy’ as overweight as well.

    And finally, Sorbet’s ‘images of beauty’ are not violent. But your post is.

  • Laura Taylor Peddle

    I would have thought “unpolished, unwaxed..” referred to a car.

  • AK65

    +1 for Truthspeaker. The beauty industry is not there to please men, and I’m sure you’ll be very surprised about what a lot of men like. A lot of the insecurity that the beauty plays on is self imposed, the industry is run by women and the stereotypes are perpetuated by them. Luckily, my partner is beautiful without needing any of the cosmetic nonsense, and I love her no matter how hairy, smooth, whatever, she is. But, yes the billboard is very offensive. I 100% agree with it.