Why aren’t men in their 30s pressured to have kids? The answer isn’t biological…

Here is an assertion with which you will be familiar. After 30, women’s fertility falls drastically. Their chances of conceiving naturally plummet, and they are left relying on IVF or adoption, or – worst of all – consigned to a childless life. These lonely women sit around their laughterless homes, pining for the burbling affection…

A fist and a hard place

Phumla Ndlovu’s* partner Xolile Silo* started drinking at nine that Monday morning. He then left their house in Roodepan township, near Kimberley in the Northern Cape, and headed for the local tavern. It was just weeks ago: March 23. “I was lying on the couch watching TV when he came back later that evening,” Ndlovu…

Why do we still have to justify the choice to be child-free?

They’re emotionally and physically exhausting, they’re hugely expensive and they are the biggest curtailment of your personal freedom after prison: objectively, it makes next to no sense to have children. Sure, the instinctive drive to perpetuate the human species, blah-di-blah, but since it feels like the only conversation I’ve had with friends for the past…

‘Another broken home’

I bristled again the other day at a phrase I think we need to expunge from our vocabularies. I was talking to an elderly relative about a mutual friend who’s recently been divorced and has three small children. “Ah,” said my relative, shaking her head disapprovingly. “Another broken home.” It’s a phrase that goes with…