It’s time to bury the myth of the trophy wife

In the forthcoming edition of the American Sociological Review, Elizabeth McClintock reports her research that appraised a representative sample of more than 1,500 young married couples and found minimal evidence of couples “trading” a woman’s looks against a man’s wealth or status. Instead, McClintock found that the overwhelming majority of couples marry by similarity, so…

Should you google your date?

It’s the first date. The drink is flowing and the conversation’s amazing. Everything’s going well and you admire his shirt thinking “that’s the same shirt he wore to the club two weeks ago”. This would be an astute observation if it wasn’t for the fact that you’ve only just met this fine gentleman. So the…

Modern Muslimahs: A step in Mr Right’s direction

Theoretically speaking, it shouldn’t be that difficult to catch a good Muslim man, especially considering that we live in a worldwide web. Google “Muslim matrimonial” and dozens of sites come up. You’ll find singlemuslim.com, which claims that it’s “the world’s leading Muslim introduction agency”, and muslima.com, which, according to its home page, has a whopping…

Perfection can be painful

At dinner with two fellow mothers from my eldest son’s nursery school, we chatted about the issues we’d had with becoming mothers for the first and second time. These are two women who I know through my child’s friendship with their children. Our relationships are not (yet) deep. They’re not (yet) personal. But over a…