Dear Bear: My partner makes no money. Is that a problem?

Dear Bear,

I’ve been with my partner for five years, and I want to spend many more together.

We both hate capitalism. He grew up extremely poor and I grew up wealthy. I’m all about redistribution of wealth in all aspects of my life, and my relationship with him is no exception.

He has worked for money almost all his life, but the whole time we’ve been together, he hasn’t had a paying job. He does a lot of emotional labor and unpaid work for the people in his life and some volunteering. He has big dreams that would involve working for money. But trying to go after those dreams seems to bring him more emotional pain than reward, and it’s hard for him to find motivation. When I try to to talk about what specific steps to take, it can lead to fights (or him completely shutting down).

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