What I’ve learned about diets: Punishing your body is not taking care of it

It’s the third week in January. You’re probably on a diet. More than any other axis of life – more than our careers, our relationships, our finances – we’re trained to ring in the dawn of each year with a hyper-critical evaluation of our bodies. Even if we don’t plunge into full-blown six-almonds-with-a-side-of-chia-seed-slurry regimens, there’s…

Perfection can be painful

At dinner with two fellow mothers from my eldest son’s nursery school, we chatted about the issues we’d had with becoming mothers for the first and second time. These are two women who I know through my child’s friendship with their children. Our relationships are not (yet) deep. They’re not (yet) personal. But over a…

Black like me

In a “post-racial” era one would think that colourism — discrimination based on one’s skin tone — is no longer an issue. You would think that such a phenomenon is a childhood memory where one was relegated to the periphery of the playground having been marked as mnyamane (blackie), tar baby, nkwishela (equivalent to a…